Does God Want Me to Be Single

Does God Want Me to Be Alone?

Woman alone in restaurant.Does God want me to be single? This is a great question and I’m excited to tell you that it has a very simple answer. Do you want to be single? Do you want to be alone? If the answer is no, then God doesn’t intend for you to be single the rest of your life.

Think about it this way. If you desire to be in a relationship, it was God who placed that desire within you.

So why then, are you still single?

When you develop a good relationship with Jesus Christ and you come to know Him well through both scripture and personal experience, you soon come to realize that while God can work in mysterious ways, he also, quite frequently, works in ways that, for Him, are typical.

One of the typical ways in which God works is that of his timing. God will nearly always take exceptionally longer than what we would prefer. And there are very profound reasons for doing so.

One reason God’s timing is always longer than ours is that God knows how to give good gifts. Let’s compare God’s timing to that of a chef. If a recipe called for the food to be in the oven for an hour but a chef chose to keep it in only five minutes, the food would come out terrible. When it comes to God taking much longer than you would prefer, it’s most likely because God is maturing you. He is maturing you to be more reliant upon Him. He’s maturing you to a place where you’re able to fully trust Him. He’s maturing you so that when He does give you a spouse they won’t end up superseding God as a priority in your life.

Furthermore, how do you know that His timing isn’t for the benefit of your future spouse? Perhaps today your future spouse isn’t even a Christian, but will be one tomorrow and will spend the next two years growing in spiritual maturity before being introduced to you. This is why it’s a great idea to begin praying for your future spouse now.

Here’s an example of God’s timing from my own life. God told me in the year 2000 that he had a wife for me. But she didn’t show up in my life until 2008 and we didn’t get married until 2010. Ten years I waited. But today I have a wonderful marriage.

Here’s my advice: Don’t fret or be envious of others. Instead, trust in the Lord. Be content with where He has you and enjoy the life He’s given you. But more importantly, delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your ways to the Lord; trust in him and he will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.

(Photo credit: flickr Creative Commons, Alone by Tri Nguyen

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5 thoughts on “Does God Want Me to Be Single

  1. The Very Truth says:

    well i certainly feel very much that he is really punishing me when it comes to having a love life, and it is very hard for me to meet a good woman to share my life with instead of me being alone and having no one. after seeing so many men and women that have been very blessed by God to have met one another and have a family, it hurts me very much since i would had wanted that as well. why does God bless certain men and women to find love and happiness?, and not us? i am no different than the ones that have it, and i would certainly very much want a love life as well like i had just mentioned. God shouldn’t put people on earth if this was his intention in the first place since this is very unfair to us, and why on earth would we want to be alone in the first place? God created men and women, and that certainly makes very much sense for us to want love and be loved as well.

    • GaryH says:

      Thanks for taking the time to write. The idea that God is punishing you is contradictory to the word of God. If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! (Matthew 7:11) Remember that when our opinions or beliefs differ from the word of God it is us who is wrong. I understand that it’s hard for you to meet women, but take joy in knowing that God created you that way in order to hem you in and save you for the one woman he has instore for you. I was married at age 38 and had waited for what seemed like forever.

      Don’t get upset when you see others marry while you remain single. They too, may have waited what, for them, seems like a long time. Continue to pray and believe that God is love and he has good gifts for you. Believe that He will provide for your needs by giving you a wife. And then wait….While you wait, take your mind off the waiting by serving. Find out where, within your church, that you can serve others. It’s most likely where you will someday meet your wife.

  2. Darla Teegarden says:

    Just wanted you to know your article truly ministered to me and gave me hope. I have a promise from God for a mate and I know that He will fulfill that promise in His timing! I am one who has truly waited a lifetime as I am female, and only a few weeks away from the age of 52! Never been married and have no children. Yet I have to trust in Him and His timing!!

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