Does God Want Me to Be Alone?
Does God want me to be single? This is a great question and I’m excited to tell you that it has a very simple answer. Do you want to be single? Do you want to be alone? If the answer is no, then God doesn’t intend for you to be single the rest of your life.
Think about it this way. If you desire to be in a relationship, it was God who placed that desire within you.
So why then, are you still single?
When you develop a good relationship with Jesus Christ and you come to know Him well through both scripture and personal experience, you soon come to realize that while God can work in mysterious ways, he also, quite frequently, works in ways that, for Him, are typical.
One of the typical ways in which God works is that of his timing. God will nearly always take exceptionally longer than what we would prefer. And there are very profound reasons for doing so.
One reason God’s timing is always longer than ours is that God knows how to give good gifts. Let’s compare God’s timing to that of a chef. If a recipe called for the food to be in the oven for an hour but a chef chose to keep it in only five minutes, the food would come out terrible. When it comes to God taking much longer than you would prefer, it’s most likely because God is maturing you. He is maturing you to be more reliant upon Him. He’s maturing you to a place where you’re able to fully trust Him. He’s maturing you so that when He does give you a spouse they won’t end up superseding God as a priority in your life.
Furthermore, how do you know that His timing isn’t for the benefit of your future spouse? Perhaps today your future spouse isn’t even a Christian, but will be one tomorrow and will spend the next two years growing in spiritual maturity before being introduced to you. This is why it’s a great idea to begin praying for your future spouse now.
Here’s an example of God’s timing from my own life. God told me in the year 2000 that he had a wife for me. But she didn’t show up in my life until 2008 and we didn’t get married until 2010. Ten years I waited. But today I have a wonderful marriage.
Here’s my advice: Don’t fret or be envious of others. Instead, trust in the Lord. Be content with where He has you and enjoy the life He’s given you. But more importantly, delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your ways to the Lord; trust in him and he will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.
(Photo credit: flickr Creative Commons, Alone by Tri Nguyen