Biblical Dating

Holding HandsFigure out first who you won’t date before deciding who you will date.

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16)

They say love is blind, and I say they’re right. Once you start falling for someone there’s a strong tendency to begin overlooking their flaws, sometimes even very big flaws.
Long before you go out on a first date; consider establishing a dating criteria by figuring out what attributes a person must already possess in order for you to date them.
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How to Become More Spiritual

In deep PrayerHave you ever wondered how to become more spiritual? To do so we have to have a relationship with Jesus Christ, which can often be perplexing to new Christians because there’s a very thin line between having a relationship with God and simply going through the motions.

Becoming more spiritual always starts with prayer. But reciting a prayer for the sake of reciting prayer does nothing toward having a relationship with God. You first have to believe He’s real and that he hears you. Then you pray to God with sincerity rather than praying at God as though reading a script.
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Christian Dream Interpretation

Christian dream interpretation

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Christian dream interpretationYou had a really strange dream and are now trying to figure out what it means. Maybe you watched a scary movie before going to bed and elements of the movie appeared in your dream. Maybe you’ve been worrying about something and your concerns are manifesting themselves into your dreams. But maybe, just maybe, it’s God talking to you and He has an important message he wants to share with you.

We see in the Bible that God can use the time we’re asleep to talk to us through our dreams.
God warned Abimelech in a dream that Sarah was actually Abraham’s wife. (Genesis 20)
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What a Christian Man Looks For In a Woman

How to Be a Christian Woman and What to Look For In a Christian Man

There are two types of Christian men. Those who’ve gained spiritual wisdom through the Holy Spirit and those who have yet to do so. When it comes to dating, the ones who haven’t will pursue women based solely on outward appearance. These men will also be the ones eager to pursue intimacy.

But the men who are filled with the Holy Spirit and have gained the renewal of the mind mentioned in the book of Romans, place a woman’s appearance as merely an important second. What they seek first are spiritual qualities.

What a Christian man looks for in a woman is that she’s a Christian filled with the Holy Spirit. A woman who loves Jesus, prays continually, and places her trust in the Lord. Christian men want a woman who serves the Lord willingly and who is not inclined to quarrel.

Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a
worker who does not need to be ashamed and who
correctly handles the word of truth. (2 Timothy 2:15)

pray continually;
give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you
in Christ Jesus. (1 Thessalonians 5:17-18)

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with
a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 21:9)

Likewise single Christian women should be seeking a man who can be a spiritual leader. Sometimes women, desperate to be in a relationship, will begin dating the first guy that comes along, and will resort to what’s known as dating evangelism – trying to get the new boyfriend to become a Christian. The sad truth however is that without her, he would never attend worship on his own. He does so only as an attempt to advance their relationship, not because he loves the Lord.

A Christian woman should be seeking a man who is already filled with the Holy Spirit and doesn’t need any prompting from her to know that he needs God. He should be a man who is already attending church regularly, already reading the Bible consistently, and who spends quality time in prayer. A spiritual leader doesn’t need to be a pastor, but he does need to recognize God’s voice.

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. (John 10:27)

The best way to find a Christian spouse is to seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33)

And while you’re seeking the Lord, get involved in, and serve at, a church where you can meet and be around people your own age. Then just wait patently upon the Lord and the relationship you long for will eventually appear in God’s perfect timing.

I Have No Hope

You may be saying, “I have no hope” and I know how you feel, I once felt the same way, but let’s let hope rise.

Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will live in hope, because you will not abandon me to the grave, nor will you let your Holy One see decay. You have made known to me the paths of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence.’ (Acts 2:26-28)

Everyone is created with an emptiness within them that can only be filled by the Love of Jesus Christ. We were made this way on purpose so that each of us would seek to have that emptiness filled. Even if we’re not aware that we’re doing so, we will spend our lives trying to fill this emptiness within us until we allow the Love of Christ to bring us that fulfillment.

Some people try to fill this emptiness with alcohol or with drugs. Still others may try to fill the void in their heart with the love of a boyfriend or girlfriend. But none of those will ever truly fill the emptiness you feel inside.

There is one thing, and one thing only that will, it is the love of Jesus Christ. When you place your hope in Jesus, He will come and fill your inner being with peace.

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Methods of Evangelism

Methods of evangelism – Find the one that works for you.

Methods of evangelism

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There are many different ways in which the gospel can be shared. Each person may find that certain methods work better for them than others. So to find the methods of evangelism that work best for you, try different ones and look for the areas where God has gifted you. But remember, practice makes perfect. Don’t assume that God hasn’t gifted you just because it feels awkward the first time you try.

Just like learning to ride a bike or catch a ball, The first time you try anything, you probably won’t do well on your first attempt. Using these methods of evangelism, you’ll probably find that you’ll have to talk to a few people, before you get the hang of it. Learning how to hone your God given gifts while interacting with living, breathing people is bound to have a few moments of awkwardness. Just press on until you become comfortable talking to people and can settle into the evangelism methods that God has gifted you with.
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How to Talk to God – A 3 Step Method

Girl holding out handsTalking to God is relatively easy. Here’s a simple 3 step method that you can use to talk to God.

Step one: Know who you’re talking to.
For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all men – the testimony given in its proper time. (1 Timothy 2:5-6)

Step two: Don’t be shy.
Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account. Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess.

For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin.
Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Hebrews 4:13-16)

Step three: Have faith.
And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. (Hebrews 11:6)

There are no special formulas for talking to God. When you pray to Jesus, talk to Him the way you would talk to your friend.

Next, check out my article on How to Hear God Speak.

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Why Does God Not Answer Prayer

Why does God not answer prayerYou’ve prayed for something and had faith that God would answer your prayer. You waited, and waited, and waited. Nothing.

Why does god not answer prayer? Actually God does answers every prayer. He answers with either a “Yes”, “No”, or “Not yet”.

To be more precise, God answers the prayers of those who believe in Him.
We know that God does not listen to sinners. He listens to the godly man who does his will. (John 9:31)

Assuming you’re a follower of Christ, if you’ve been praying for something and you’re prayer remains unanswered it means that either God, in His infinite wisdom, knows it’s not what you need, or that it’s not yet the right time for it.

God is more concerned for our spiritual well being and growth than for our worldly well being. This isn’t suggesting that He’s indifferent to our material needs; rather it is to suggest that God sees in us the greater needs, which may frequently be spiritual in nature.

For example, a woman might be praying to find a husband because she’s lonely, but God may perhaps chose to delay that request until she’s grown spiritually enough to be the spiritual helper that her future husband needs.

(Incidentally, I prayed diligently for a wife, and received one ten years later.)

When you pray, present your requests and your plans to the Lord, then get up off your knees and begin moving in the direction you think is best to accomplish your task. As you progress, continue to pray, while trying to discern the direction the Lord is giving you. For example, the answer to your prayer might be “Yes” but not in the place you are now. Perhaps you try and try and nothing happens. Look around and see if you might do better somewhere else. You might find God suddenly opens doors for you in a new location.

God answers our prayers, with either “Yes”, “No”, or “Not yet”. Trust in Him and keep praying throughout every step of your journey.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

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Our Father Prayer

New International Version

“Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one, for yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory for ever. Amen.” (Matthew 6:9-13 NIV)

King James Version

“Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.” (Matthew 6:9-13 kJV)