Biblical Dating

Holding HandsFigure out first who you won’t date before deciding who you will date.

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16)

They say love is blind, and I say they’re right. Once you start falling for someone there’s a strong tendency to begin overlooking their flaws, sometimes even very big flaws.
Long before you go out on a first date; consider establishing a dating criteria by figuring out what attributes a person must already possess in order for you to date them.

This is really important for girls because every youth group and young adult ministry has a few wolves that are there merely to hook up with a “hot Christian girl” who they believe is going to be gullible, innocent and naive about the ways of the world.

A good Christian dating criteria is one that establishes proof of a person’s walk with God. For example, there are a lot of people who say they attend church when really they go only at Christmas and Easter. One criteria could be to set a rule that you won’t date anyone unless you first see them attending church regularly. Why is this important? Because no one can have a growing relationship with Christ if they’re not regularly in church. And someone who’s not attending church can not be a spiritual leader or a spiritual helper.

Another criteria to set for yourself might be that the person you’re willing to date must be someone who also serves at church in some capacity. This is what can separate the wolves from the sheep. The person who serves at church places other people’s needs before their own. This is a really strong indication of the quality of a person’s character because, after all, marriages that last, do so because the couple is willing to meet one another’s needs.

Before deciding to date someone, it’s very important to look at a person’s actions regardless of what their words may be. By establishing some dating criteria before you start dating, you can avoid a lot of heart ache and wasted time.

Remember also to pray diligently because God already knows exactly who he has for you.

Photo credit: flickr Creativ Commons, Holding Hands by Aimee Heart